The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

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Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

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United States

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Adult Content

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Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

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English

Episodes

2 Things Every BDSM Scene Needs (Most People Miss One)

4/13/2026

#134 Why do some BDSM scenes feel flat – even when everything looks right? Discover the 2 things that actually make or break a BDSM scene. Learn how Doms and subs can prepare, avoid common mistakes, and create deeper, more connected scenes. Share this episode with your partner and try these 2 shifts before your next scene. ➡️ Download your free scene: https://domsubliving.com/scene ➡️ Get our Scene Creation Worksheets inside our All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:40:47

Ask the Audience: Submissive Pet Peeves (Sorry, Doms)

4/6/2026

#133 What do Dominants do that drives submissives crazy? Real answers from the Dom Sub Living community reveal common D/s mistakes – from lack of follow-through to inconsistency, attention, and leadership gaps. Learn what breaks submission and how to fix it. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/133

Duration:00:22:17

Why Stressed Doms Pull Back (and What to Do About It)

3/30/2026

#132 The Dom is stressed – and your dynamic is paying the price. In this episode, we answer a real coaching call question about what to do when the Dom checks out under pressure. Learn how to spot red flags, how the sub can stay grounded in submission, and why stress might actually strengthen your dynamic. If this sounds familiar, you need to hear this episode. ➡️ Join our Dom Sub Training course: https://domsubtraining.com ➡️ Explore all our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses 🎥 Watch the free masterclass, '3 Keys to Creating a Killer D/s Dynamic': https://domsubliving.com/masterclass

Duration:00:07:21

5 Power Exchange Mistakes That Are Killing Your D/s Dynamic

3/23/2026

#131 Are you slowly killing your D/s dynamic without realizing it? In this episode, we break down hidden patterns that weaken connection, trust, and power exchange over time – and why they feel normal while you’re in them. Listen now and take an honest look at your BDSM dynamic today. ➡️ Download your free BDSM contract: https://domsubliving.com/contract ➡️ Explore our courses & trainings: https://domsubliving.com/courses ✅ Grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com/ ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:27:56

Is It Kink or Is It Abuse? How to Know the Difference

3/19/2026

#130 BDSM is not abuse. Consensual non-consent is not rape, and ageplay is not incest. In this powerful episode, we break down consent, red flags, and when power exchange crosses the line. Featuring RAINN. Listen now and share with someone who needs it. ➡️ Get support/support RAINN: https://rainn.org ➡️ Learn more about Podcasthon: https://podcasthon.org ➡️ Explore our resources: https://domsubliving.com ✅ Grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com/

Duration:00:20:19

How to Create D/s Protocols That Work in Real Life

3/16/2026

#129 Too many protocols? Not enough? Here's the fix. If your D/s protocols keep failing – or you don't have any – this episode is for you. We break down 50 creative protocol ideas for every dynamic: bedroom-only, long-distance, CG/l, high protocol, disability, public, and even single kinksters. Listen now and choose one protocol to implement today. ➡️ More protocol ideas: https://domsubliving.com/protocols ➡️ Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com ✅ Grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com/ ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:31:19

10 Dom/sub Questions to Deepen Your Dynamic Tonight

3/9/2026

#128 Most Dom/sub dynamics don’t fail from lack of kink—they fail from lack of communication. Discover 10 powerful questions that deepen D/s, improve scenes, strengthen aftercare, and prevent dynamics from drifting. These questions build trust, devotion, and intentional power exchange. Listen now and try one question with your partner tonight! ➡️ Free list of 20+ protocols: https://domsubliving.com/protocols ➡️ Step-by-step courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:30:39

Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Fix This)

3/2/2026

#127 If your D/s keeps starting strong… and then quietly falling apart, it’s not because you’re bad at BDSM. There’s a pattern we see over and over in Dom/sub relationships. It has nothing to do with effort, toys, or trying harder. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Listen now and find out what’s really sabotaging your dynamic. ➡️ Free list of 30+ punishment ideas: https://domsubliving.com/punish ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/127 ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:42:24

5 Edgeplay Ideas Only Experienced Kinksters Try

2/23/2026

#126 Some of you are going to try this anyway. Edgeplay goes beyond safe, sane, and consensual into risk-aware kink – and most kinksters aren’t ready for what that really means. We're ranking five advanced practices by danger level and breaking down the psychology, trust, and real risks behind them. Listen now to hear which one tops the list. ➡️ Free checklist of 50+ kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/126 🎁 Enter to win a sexy, luxury collar: https://domsubliving.com/giveaway/

Duration:00:19:49

6 Training Ideas to Take Your D/s Beyond the Bedroom

2/16/2026

#125 What if your power exchange didn’t end when the scene was over? We're sharing 6 practical training methods to make your D/s dynamic real every day—beyond the bedroom. If you’re craving a consistent and kinky Dom/sub dynamic instead of a hobby, this is your roadmap. ➡️ Free 'How to Be a Good Dom' Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom ➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:29:07

4 Ways to Find a Dom/Sub Partner (That Actually Work)

2/9/2026

#124: Struggling to find a real Dom or sub without scammers or fake dynamics? In this episode, we're breaking down the 4 proven ways kinksters are actually meeting healthy partners today – from introducing kink to a current partner to dating smarter online and in person. Listen now and start finding real connection. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Explore our step-by-step trainings: https://domsubliving.com/courses

Duration:00:21:50

What Kind of Dom Are You Really? How to Find Your True Style

2/2/2026

#123 Daddy, Master, Sadist… why does choosing a Dom style feel so hard? This episode explores how instinct, control, care, and desire shape your true Dominant identity, with a grounded take on finding alignment instead of forcing labels. Press play to hear what actually fits. ➡️ Free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom ➡️ All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:07:26

What Real Dom/Sub Relationships Actually Look Like

1/26/2026

#122 “I want a Dom/sub dynamic, but how do I trust?” In this interview, real students David and Dana share how they built a healthy Dom/sub relationship. We talk trust, communication, leadership, safety, and mindset—what actually works beyond fantasy. Subscribe for more real BDSM conversations. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Check out the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:18:19

My Dungeon Night Debrief: New Year’s Eve at a BDSM Club

1/19/2026

#121 What is it really like inside a BDSM dungeon? We're taking you behind the scenes of our New Year’s Eve night in Los Angeles, from safety rules and live, performances to playing on the St. Andrew’s Cross and ending at Denny’s. Listen now and join our online kink community. ➡️ Our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:23:32

How to Get Started With BDSM in 2026

1/12/2026

#120 Kink curious but overwhelmed? 👉 Take the free kink personality type quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quiz You don’t need extreme play, expensive toys, or a dungeon to start BDSM. In this episode, we're sharing a clear, beginner-friendly path to consent, power exchange, starter kinks, first scenes, and building a real Dom/sub dynamic that actually works in real life. Follow the show and listen now. ➡️ Fee kink personality type quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quiz ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/120

Duration:00:15:37

From Bedroom Kink to Living 24/7 D/s

1/5/2026

#119 24/7 D/s isn’t something you jump into overnight. We're breaking down the real phases that take couples from bedroom-only kink into a lived 24/7 power exchange—without rushing, forcing labels, or burning out. If you feel stuck in the middle, this will make the path clearer. Follow the show so you don’t miss what comes next. ➡️ Free BDSM contract template: https://domsubliving.com/contract ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/008 ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:31:48

2025 Broke Me… But It Also Built Me

12/29/2025

#118 I almost didn’t release this episode—and that’s exactly why I had to. In this raw episode, I'm sharing the good, bad, and ugly of a tough year: surviving long-distance D/s, facing kink community drama, and the hard boundaries I drew to protect myself and my work. Listen through the end to hear what’s coming next—and why I'm not backing down. ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/118 ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:37:35

Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?

12/22/2025

#117 One of you is kinky, the other... not so much. Is that a deal-breaker—or just a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Relationship coach Amanda Dames breaks down how kinky/vanilla couples can talk about desire without shame, translate needs clearly, and decide what’s actually sustainable long-term. No pressure. No fixing. Just honesty. Listen now, then follow Amanda Dames and check out The Kink Consultant podcast for deeper guidance. ➡️ Check out Amanda's site: https://www.amandadames.com ➡️ Listen to her podcast, The Kink Consultant: https://podfollow.com/1766435920 ➡️ Download her free workbook, "Speak Your Desires with Confidence": https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Duration:00:20:44

Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues—Let’s Talk D/s

12/15/2025

#116 What do you do when real life and D/s collide? 👉 Join the free Dom Sub Living Community: https://domsubliving.com/community Today Jay and Alesandra answer your biggest Dom/sub questions: long-distance rules, sub drop, fear of judgment, family boundaries, punishment, switching, and even dirty talk styles. Join our Dom Sub Living Community to ask your own questions next episode! ➡️ Join the free Dom Sub Living Community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/116 ❤️ Join the All-Access Pass for community, coaching, and courses: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:47:49

Slave Training 101: The One Thing Most Doms Skip

12/8/2025

#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must master to keep their dynamic strong, sustainable, and consensual. Tap play to learn the simple shift that makes slave training actually work. ➡️ Free weekly newsletter: https://domsubliving.com/signup ➡️ Get deeper support: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:07:53