Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

This solo episode is going to explore a fear that many of us carry inside our intimate relationships but rarely say out loud: the fear of settling. What is it? Where does it come from? And most importantly, what does it cost us? Dr. Alexandra will offer you a reframe that is both clarifying and hopeful. We are going to reimagine what acceptance actually means – not as a passive giving-up, but as one of the most powerful and underrated tools available to us in love. In this episode, you will hear about: Grab a pen and paper! Dr. Alexandra has included a writing exercise in this episode, designed to guide you towards acceptance - both of yourself and your partner. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Reimagining LoveRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 1https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-1-rerelease/Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2 https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-2-rerelease/Inviting a Reluctant Partner into Relationship Work https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/inviting-a-reluctant-partner-into-relationship-work-re-release/“I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!” https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/i-think-ive-outgrown-my-relationshipIs There an “Effort Mismatch” in Your Relationship? https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-there-an-effort-mismatch-in-your-relationship Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Join Esther Perel's annual clinical conference Sessions Live 2026! Learn in person in Brooklyn, New York or virtually on May 15th and 16th. Use code SOLOMON50 for $50 off a virtual ticket or SOLOMON100 for $100 off in-person. Get your tickets at https://sessionslive2026.estherperel.com/ Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamichttps://www.family-institute.org/https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/https://bookshop.org/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live/9780525541943?gclid=CjwKCAjwyryUBhBSEiwAGN5OCMpPV9pDU8oYDF4N2gccTwdOWo4hb8gHLsp3DfY1sTLi7IrxdD83YxoCGiQQAvD_BwE Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire https://bookshop.org/p/books/liberated-love-release-codependent-patterns-and-create-the-love-you-desire-kylie-mcbeath/40bfe21a1c3c84ad?ean=9781250908957&next=t& Liberated Lovehttps://markgroves.com/bookReimagining Love "My Partner Wants to Take a Break. What's Next?"https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/my-partner-wants-to-take-a-break-whats-next/id1588419386?i=1000756951793 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra will be exploring the topic of taking a break from your relationship, which was inspired by a listener email. First, she will talk you through some very specific and perhaps surprising reasons that taking a break is so difficult, with the support of some research. Then you will hear Dr. Alexandra’s Seven-Step Best Practices for a structured or therapeutic separation, with consideration for Before, During and After the Break. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: The Lived Experience of Ambiguous Marital Separation: A Phenomenological Study:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7383873/“It’s complicated’’: The continuity and correlates of cycling in cohabiting and marital relationshipshttps://extension.usu.edu/hru/files/Vennum-et-al-2014-Relationship-cycling-and-outcomes.pdfEstablishing links between relationship cycling, relational stress, and well-being: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02654075251378864Reimagining LoveHow to Get Closure After A Breakup - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-closure-after-a-breakup/id1588419386?i=1000603123829Reimagining LoveDealing With Breakup Regret - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dealing-with-breakup-regret/id1588419386?i=1000604088930Reimagining Love"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part One) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-thinking-about-getting-back-together-with-my-ex-part-one/id1588419386?i=1000607309489Reimagining Love episode, "I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part Two) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-thinking-about-getting-back-together-with-my-ex-part-two/id1588419386?i=1000608341518Reimagining LoveConscious Uncoupling: Divorce as an Ending, Not a Failure with Katherine Woodward Thomas - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conscious-uncoupling-divorce-as-an-ending-not/id1588419386?i=1000650466142Reimagining LoveThe D Word: An Empowering Approach to Divorce with Kate Anthony - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-d-word-an-empowering-approach-to-divorce/id1588419386?i=1000642611274 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Here’s a bonus episode for you with Dr. Alexandra guesting on The Sober Mom Life to chat with Suzanne Warye about intimate partnerships, particularly what happens in a relationship when one partner gets sober. In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra talks about how the tools of Relational Self-Awareness can be brought to navigating transitions, growing both individually and together in a relationship, resourcing different kinds of intimacy from within our marriage and outside of it, seeking couple therapy, taking Your Sexy back (especially soberly), and creating moments of appreciation to strengthen your relationship. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Reimagining LoveShifting to Sobriety: Quitting Drinking, Self-Compassion, and Evolving Together with Suzanne & Russell Warye: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/shifting-to-sobriety-quitting-drinking-self-compassion/id1588419386?i=1000743944736 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Learn more about the Options Transition to Independence Program which offers education, vocational, independent living, and emotional support for young adults with complex learning needs. https://www.experienceoptions.org/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Cycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Alexandra to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partnerhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/stop-overthinking-your-relationship-break-the-cycle-of-anxious-rumination-to-nurture-love-trust-and-connection-with-your-partner-alicia-munoz/18078243?ean=9781648480034https://aliciamunoz.com/Reimagining LoveConnecting Through the Nervous System: Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/connecting-through-the-nervous-system-polyvagal/id1588419386?i=1000740378605Reimagining LoveManaging Anxiety: Three Root Causes To Help You Find Relief with Noelle McWard Aquino: https://podcasts.apple.com/am/podcast/managing-anxiety-three-root-causes-to-help-you-find/id1588419386?i=1000728011668 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this solo deep-dive episode, Dr. Alexandra will be exploring rebounds. Maybe you are fresh out of a breakup and you've crossed paths with someone you're interested in, but you're scared that pursuing this feels “rebound-y” and therefore foolish. Maybe you're seeing someone who is recently out of a relationship and you're worried about becoming their rebound. Maybe you've had concerns about a rebounding couple in your world. Or maybe you're simply curious about the process of healing between relationships. Wherever you're coming from, this episode will surely leave you with a unique and nuanced perspective on healing before entering a new relationship that will be useful to you. First, Dr. Alexandra will talk about rebound relationships and dig into the rhetoric around them, including some surprising research that may run counter to the typical view of rebound relationships (and then some caveats to this research - shades of grey galore!). With this groundwork laid out, she is then going to offer you a 9-Task framework for doing a rebound with Relational Self-Awareness – how to keep a new relationship healthy while also continuing to process whatever your previous relationship left you with. And if you're the partner of someone who is rebounding, you can repurpose the framework for your own situation. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: The Surprising Benefits of a Rebound Relationship: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/sex-esteem/202601/the-surprising-benefit-of-a-rebound-relationship-after-a-breakupReimagining LoveWhy Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin Neff: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/why-self-compassion-is-an-essential-practice-with/id1588419386?i=1000733838918Reimagining LoveTalking About the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-about-the-future-navigating-a-pace-discrepancy/id1588419386?i=1000578512125Reimagining Love "I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?": https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-need-connection-my-partner-needs-space-now-what/id1588419386?i=1000654782525 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her mission to make mental health topics more relevant and accessible for Black women. They also discuss what to look for in a new therapist, the personal growth that comes from breakups and new beginnings, and a listener question from a single mom who's struggling with FOMO. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: https://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://hellodrjoy.com/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today, Dr. Alexandra and fellow psychologist, author, and podcast host Dr. Tracy Dalgleish are digging into a dynamic that is notoriously difficult to navigate - if, of course, all the stereotypes and jokes and rhetoric are to be totally believed. Except in this conversation, they’re handling it with the compassion, nuance, and understanding that all relationships deserve. They are dissecting the dynamic between a woman, her husband and her mother-in-law, and the complexities often found in that triangle. Dr. Tracy’s book You, Your Husband, and His Mother explores this dynamic in such an insightful way and her offerings guide this conversation. She provides tools to help you understand the dynamics at play and to shift those dynamics in the most effective way we can: namely, by seeing our own patterns in relation to others’, meeting those patterns with compassion and understanding, and changing up our own dance moves. In this episode, you will learn: Resources worth mentioning from the episode: You, Your Husband, and His Mother: Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law--and Your Spouse--in Five Simple Steps https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-your-husband-and-his-mother-create-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-mother-in-law-and-your-spouse-in-five-simple-steps-dr-tracy-dalgleish/ff98565f5a7ef87ahttps://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=enDear Dr. Tracyhttps://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/dear-dr-tracy/id1452433255Love, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-acceptance-growth-the-insights-we-glean-from-couples-therapy/https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/well/family/mankeeping-definition.html Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the CenterListen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's bookConnect with Rhaina online"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality"Journal of Marriage and FamilyContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of infatuation, unable to discern between love and obsession? In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and journalist and author Amanda McCracken discuss limerence, a state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings. Drawing from her compelling new book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda shares her personal journey through the complexities of limerence, shedding light on how modern dating practices and social media amplify this intense emotional state. Beyond the macro/cultural factors, you will hear about the individual risk factors that can lead to patterns of limerence, such as painful early experiences and certain neuro-wirings/diagnoses, like ADHD and autism. You will also hear about how Amanda approached healing from her limerent patterns and opened herself up to a healthy, reciprocal intimate partnership. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love: A True Story of Overcoming Limerence https://bookshop.org/p/books/when-longing-becomes-your-lover-breaking-from-infatuation-rejection-and-perfectionism-to-find-authentic-love-a-true-story-of-overcoming-limerence-a/ef0e30a5bd30e10b?aid=116429&ean=9781546008538&listref=2026-most-anticipated-memoirs-and-essay-collections&next=thttps://www.amandajmccracken.com/https://www.tiktok.com/@thelonginglabhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-longing-lab/id1606581375Living With Limerencehttps://livingwithlimerence.com/about/Reimagining LoveCrushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. Phillips https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crushes-first-love-and-heartbreak-supporting-teens/id1588419386?i=1000704425459&l=ruContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesLove Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today, we're sharing an episode of ShrinkChicks, a mental health and relationships podcast. Dr. Alexandra recently joined hosts Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly for a conversation answering some very thoughtful listener questions such as, “Why is it so hard to break patterns and be in a healthy relationship?” and “How do I stay open to a healthy relationship without waiting for it to fall apart?”. Join our conversation as we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and the importance of self-awareness in fostering healthy connections. Enjoy this bonus episode filled with insights and practical advice about healthy relationships and the patterns we carry from our families of origin. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shrinkchicks/id1483261668https://www.instagram.com/shrinkchicks/https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapyhttps://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Agehttps://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730The Vulnerability Cyclehttps://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.xMonafishbane.comContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

These days, Dr. Alexandra talks about discernment when approaching the high volume of content available in the realm of mental wellness, self-help, and relationships, so you can sift through what works for you and what doesn’t. And a guiding principle is that insight alone is not sufficient. Engaging with content that helps you go from just knowing some new things to embodying these lessons contributes to your depth of understanding and potential for healing. Today’s guest found her way into her work through eagerly reading self-help book after self-help book trying to understand herself but determined that the piece she needed for her own healing was the felt, somatic experience of being safe in relationships. And that’s not necessarily a romantic relationship, either - that is any anchoring relationship: friends, family members, mentors, pets. This guest is Jessica Baum, licensed psychotherapist and author of the books Anxiously Attached and more recently, Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, which is the focus of this conversation. You will hear Dr. Alexandra and Jessica Baum discuss: Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safehttps://consciousrelationshipgroup.com/https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/?hl=enContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In our modern world, we have seen a remarkable increase in anxiety and depression in people, particularly among young people, not to mention the loneliness epidemic, burnout, and stress, all of which greatly impact our sense of well-being and our ability to connect with each other. Dr. Alexandra is joined by the award-winning journalist and bestselling author, Jennifer B. Wallace, whose latest book Mattering: The Secret to Building a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose makes the case for why feeling like we matter is essential to our well-being and how prioritizing this need is a remedy to our modern mental health dilemmas. In this conversation, you will hear about: Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Mattering: The Secret to Building a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose by Jennifer Breheny Wallace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/mattering-the-secret-to-a-life-of-deep-connection-and-purpose-jennifer-breheny-wallace/157a47e2699950cb?ean=9780593850596&next=thttps://www.instagram.com/jenniferbrehenywallace/?hl=enhttps://www.jenniferbwallace.com/newsletterhttps://www.derekthompson.org/p/whose-cup-are-you-fillingContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You may be surprised to hear that billionaires get divorced at roughly the same rate as the general population, which demonstrates that no amount of money protects couples from the tension that can arise when finances are at play. Dr. Alexandra often says that money is a tricky topic because at one level, it is very concrete – dollars and cents, spending and saving. But at another level, the topic of money evokes deep and meaningful questions about our core beliefs, our sense of identity, our desires, and our insecurities. To help us explore all of this, Dr. Alexandra is joined by financial-planning power couple Douglas and Heather Boneparth. You will hear them talk about: Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial teamhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/money-together-how-to-find-fairness-in-your-relationship-and-become-an-unstoppable-financial-team-douglas-boneparth/273465fcc086fc3dThe Joint Accounthttps://www.readthejointaccount.com/https://domoneytogether.com/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Loving Bravelyhttps://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Alexandra is joined by sobriety influencer, podcast host, and author, Suzanne Warye, and her husband, Russell Warye, to talk about the role alcohol played for them at various stages of their lives and their respective journeys towards sobriety. You’ll hear them talk about the trouble with approaching alcohol with moderation, how shame becomes entwined with alcohol use, and how sobriety clears the landing for self-compassion and worthiness. Throughout, they discuss how their sobriety journeys impacted their relationship, both when Suzanne pursued sobriety first and then years later, when Russell followed suit. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: The Sober Shifthttps://bookshop.org/p/books/the-sober-shift-a-modern-day-guide-to-living-an-abundant-sober-life-suzanne-warye/016d6eef4f5d0831?ean=9780063437616&next=tThe Sober Mom Lifehttps://thesobermomlife.com/2024/07/22/when-your-partner-stops-drinking/The Sober Mom Life, https://thesobermomlife.com/2022/08/22/how-sobriety-affects-your-relationship/https://mykindofsweet.com/about-suzanne/Reimagining Love episode, “I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-think-ive-outgrown-my-relationship/id1588419386?i=1000739258061Thriving Through the Holiday Chaoshttp://masterclass.com/holidaysContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce. Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content. We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Resources worth mentioning from the episode: Thriving Through the Holiday Chaoshttp://masterclass.com/holidaysFor Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitWhen You’re the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment: From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) - My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) - Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkoutFor Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) - Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Intimate Relationships 101Can I Trust You Again?https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This conversation revolves around the nervous system and its impact on the way that we connect. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Deb Dana, the leading translator of Dr. Stephen Porges’ scientific work on Polyvagal Theory to the public and mental health professionals. As just one example of her huge impact, a term she coined, glimmers, has gone viral on TikTok. You’ll hear Deb take us through Polyvagal Theory, explaining the three principles of neuroception, hierarchy of response, and coregulation. You’ll learn about the states our nervous systems go between - how those states feel and the types of thoughts and sensations that go alongside each state. You will learn that our ability to connect with the people around us is dictated by our biology. It’s not cognitive. And it’s certainly not random. Through the lens of Polyvagal Theory, helping our nervous systems and the nervous systems around us feel safe becomes the goal, and you’ll learn how that perspective has shaped Deb Dana’s life and how it can shift how you approach your relationships, as well. And of course, you’ll hear about glimmers, including how to integrate a simple glimmer practice into your routine, in order to further help the nervous system feel safe and primed for connection, curiosity, and creativity. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: A Beginner’s Guide to Polyvagal Theoryhttps://dralexandrasolomon.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/Beginners-Guide-Presentations-1.pdfhttps://www.rhythmofregulation.com/Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theoryhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/anchored-how-to-befriend-your-nervous-system-using-polyvagal-theory-deb-dana-lcsw/2dcb315349927ae6Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Love Every Dayhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Intimate Relationships 101Can I Trust You Again?https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

On Reimagining Love, we've done several solo episodes where Dr. Alexandra takes a seemingly simple and straightforward statement that folks are making about relationships. Then she pulls it apart to try to find more shades of grey, to add more complexity and layering to a phrase that she finds has gotten too simplistic. In today’s episode, we are going to look at what it means when people say they've outgrown their relationship*. First, Dr. Alexandra will talk you through what she thinks people are saying when they say they've outgrown the relationship. Then she is going to look at the internal stuff - what might be going on inside of you that's shaping this feeling that you've outgrown the relationship that you're in. Then she is going to look at the relational stuff - what might be going on in the space between you and your partner that's shaping this feeling that you've outgrown the relationship. And then finally, she will talk about some strategies that you can use to bring clarity to the situation. *This episode often uses the language of intimate partnerships but much of it can be applied to other relationships, like friendships, as well. Other Solo RL Episodes that do a deep dive on a too-simplistic phrase: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/i-love-them-but-im-not-in-love-with-them/https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/right-person-wrong-time/https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/if-they-wanted-to-they-would/Resources to support the episode: Reimagining Love episodes, Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 1https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-1-rerelease/Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/relational-ambivalence-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-part-2-rerelease/Inviting a Reluctant Partner Into Relationship Workhttps://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/inviting-a-reluctant-partner-into-relationship-work-re-release/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Intimate Relationships 101Can I Trust You Again?https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.