UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Ever feel like you’re "too much" for others? Like when someone tells you you're too sensitive, too needy, or taking things too seriously? In this episode, I explore why the fear of being "too much" is so common among women and how it limits us from living fully. You'll discover why this vague but powerful fear gets weaponized against women and marginalized communities, and how to start rewiring your brain around it. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/454 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026! I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I’ll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. This call is happening on January 5th at 12pm Eastern. You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecalls

Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake at work, no matter how small? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that dive into how we handle fear, stress, and the pressure to be perfect. The first question is from someone working in a high-stakes field, terrified of making mistakes and facing professional consequences. The second question is about dealing with stress-induced habits like overeating or drinking, and the guilt that follows. I show you why you can’t solve the problem by just focusing on behavior... it’s your thoughts and emotions that need attention. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/453 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Let's Plan Your Most Audacious Goals for 2026! I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. This call will be happening on two dates: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Join us live for Your Dream 2026 Planning Call here

I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I’ll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. There are two date options you can choose from for this call: December 30th at 12pm Eastern January 5th at 12pm Eastern You’ll walk away with a clear goal for each of the six core areas of your life, and a road map to the skills you need to build, strengthen, or deploy to achieve them. Click here to sign up for your Dream Life Planning Call: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/dreamlifecalls

Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before we can make a choice. So in this episode, I’m sharing why women often struggle with decisiveness and how our socialization shapes the way we approach decision-making and risk. You’ll learn why embracing decisiveness is crucial for creating the life you want and get practical tips for using self-coaching to make confident, purposeful decisions that align with your goals. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/452 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life? Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or felt like you’re constantly navigating emotional landmines with family. The first is about how to stop feeling awful about yourself every time you scroll through Instagram, comparing yourself to others or feeling like you’re not doing enough. The second question is about dealing with a family member who’s set boundaries that leave you feeling rejected. This episode will teach you how to separate your feelings from someone else’s behavior, take full responsibility for your emotional life, and stop outsourcing your worth to others. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/451 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life? Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, you'll hear why this impossible standard actually sets you up to never trust yourself - and how that erodes both your confidence and your ability to create what you want in life. I share examples from my own life and give you practical steps to start creating the kind of self-trust that allows you to handle whatever comes up - not because you'll do everything right, but because you know you can deal with whatever happens. Learn more about A Confident Life here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/aconfidentlife/ Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/450 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life? Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the problem isn’t the relationship, it’s the way your brain is using other people’s opinions to try to regulate your self-worth. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about rejection and attraction that illustrate how quickly your mind will outsource your value to someone else’s thoughts. I break down why your brain becomes so invested in mental rehearsals, fantasies, and what-ifs, and how those patterns keep you from seeing your actual emotional life clearly. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/449 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Are You Ready to Live A Confident Life? Join me for my brand new program, A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Over the course of a year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence to create any outcome you want in your life. Click here to learn more and sign up for A Confident Life!

Confidence isn’t a magic spell, and it’s not something you’re born with. Over the course of one year working with me and other smart dynamic women, you will learn how to deploy the four skills of confidence – self-knowledge, self-compassion, self-belief and self-actualization – to create any outcome you want in your life. From the incredibly concrete (get promoted to VP) to the most ineffable (love myself more), these four skills will get you where you want to go. Join me for A Confident Life, January 12 – December 8, 2026. Click here to grab your spot or learn more: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/life

When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you living by the beach with a business that makes money while you sleep? Are you making holiday cookies with your kids without ever spilling flour all over the floor? In this episode, I'm breaking down a crucial distinction that most self-help exercises about connecting to your future self completely miss: the difference between your future self and your fantasy self. You'll learn specific ways to check whether you're connecting to a helpful future self who has actual advice about your growth, or if you're indulging in a fantasy that keeps you stuck. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/448 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Playing with your preschooler should be fun, right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into common parenting frustrations. The first tackles how to show up authentically when your preschooler's bossiness during play triggers irritation. The second explores managing all those thoughts about how children "should" behave. You'll learn practical ways to reframe your irritation, understand what being "authentic" really means in parenting, and get curious about those inherited beliefs about how kids should act. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/447 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Are you ready to achieve your most AUDACIOUS goals in 2026? Join me for a free, live Q&A all about my year-long confidence program, A Confident Life on December 12 at 12 p.m. ET. This is your chance to discover if this program is the right next step for you, and maybe even get coached yourself (if you put your hand up, that is!). Register for the Q&A Call for A Confident Life here!

There’s one thing that determines whether you can create the life you want: Your confidence. When you believe you can’t, you won’t. When you believe you can, you will. Teaching you how to believe you can is what we do best. And it's what I will be doing in our brand new, year-long program, A Confident Life. Join me for a free, live Q&A to discover if A Confident Life is the next right step for you. To sign up for the Q&A call, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qa-call

If you have big goals for 2026 but no idea what thoughts your brain actually needs to think to create them, this episode will give you a much clearer map. I’m breaking down the kinds of thought patterns that keep you stuck in body insecurity, imposter syndrome, dating frustration, family tension, or money anxiety and how to use the four Confidence Compass skills to shift those patterns for good. No matter what your goals are, you will hear at least one thought you can borrow and apply immediately to the area of your life you want to evolve next. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/446 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Join me to for Create More Confidence: A Pop-Up Coaching Program on December 8-10, 2025 here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/confident

In this Coaching Hotline episode, you'll hear two listener questions that will feel familiar if you have ever wondered why your new thoughts seem to “stop working” or why believing you can handle future challenges feels harder than it should. I break down what is really happening underneath that experience so you can see it with a lot more clarity. I also talk about the mental spiral that happens when someone else’s unmanaged mind feels irritating, and why that reaction is more revealing about your own thought patterns than you think. If you have ever felt stuck between what you know intellectually and what your brain insists on believing, this episode will show you how to shift that dynamic from the inside out. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/445 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

If you could become the fullest version of yourself, what would that even look like? After coaching thousands of women for nearly a decade, I can tell you this is the real question beneath every goal, every dream, and every moment of frustration. We all want self-actualization, but most of us stay stuck not because we lack ambition, but because we have never been taught the skill that makes self-actualization possible. In this episode, I explain why self-actualization has nothing to do with your circumstances, your upbringing, your bank account, or the state of the world. It comes from learning how to act on possibility instead of waiting for certainty. I teach you how to move your threshold for action from probable to possible, and why this shift is essential if you want to grow into your future self. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/444 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Join me to for Create More Confidence: A Pop-Up Coaching Program on December 8-10, 2025 here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/confident

What happens when you’re stuck between wanting more for yourself but not knowing how to get there? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I dive into how to break free from the confusion and indecision that come with craving something bigger, but not knowing what that actually means for you. I also address the all-too-common habit of complaining and why we so often turn to others for validation, even when it doesn’t actually help us move forward. You’ll learn how to swap complaints for empowering thoughts and why trying out a “complaining diet” is a game-changer for shifting your mindset. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/443 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

Enroll now in Create More Confidence, happening on December 8-10, 2025. This mini coaching immersion is designed to: (1) help you vision your goals for 2026 and (2) zero in on which confidence skills you need to build to achieve them. Training calls take place at 12 p.m. ET each day. VIP calls take place at 1 p.m. ET each day. Click here to sign up: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/cmc

We hear a lot about self esteem these days. Why it matters, how to get more of it, and what it means when you feel like you do not have enough. Most people think that improving their self esteem will automatically make them more confident, but to create real and lasting confidence, they are missing something essential: self belief. In this episode, I am breaking down the difference between the two and explaining why self belief is the skill that actually moves your life forward. You will also learn why your brain resists confidence in the first place and how to work through the fears that keep you playing small. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/442 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Join me to for Create More Confidence: A Pop-Up Coaching Program on December 8-10, 2025 here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/confident

When you're building a business, raising a family, or navigating relationships, those uncomfortable feelings of inadequacy, jealousy or betrayal feel like roadblocks. But what if they're actually signposts pointing you toward exactly what you need to examine? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into the messy, uncomfortable territory of growth. First, I'm sharing the specific thoughts that took me to the million-dollar mark by year three of my business. Then I'm answering a question from a listener who agreed to let her partner sleep with someone else and now feels consumed by regret and betrayal. Tune in to hear how the thoughts creating your biggest challenges often contain the seeds of your breakthrough. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/441 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Learn How to Stop Caring What Other People Think Get this FREE workshop + guide by going to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/hsc Get the How to Stop Caring What Other People Think Workshop here!

Do you worry that if you practice self-compassion, you’ll stop getting things done or start letting yourself off the hook? This is a common fear, and it comes from confusing self-compassion with self-pity. In this episode, I’m teaching the second skill of the Confidence Compass: self-compassion. You’ll learn how self-pity, self-criticism, and self-compassion form a spectrum, and why real confidence comes from balancing self-awareness with empathy. I’ll show you how self-compassion allows you to meet yourself honestly and kindly while still taking responsibility for your growth and evolution. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/440 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Learn How to Stop Caring What Other People Think Get this FREE workshop + guide by going to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/hsc Get the How to Stop Caring What Other People Think Workshop here!