The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

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Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

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United States

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Adult Content

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Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

Language:

English

Episodes

Dom/Sub Secrets No One Talks About (But We Will)

8/4/2025

#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Listen now! ➡️ Amy's website: https://www.amyvorpahl.com ➡️ Join Amy's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/amyvorpahl ➡️ Follow Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vorpahlsword/ ➡️ Free kink resources: https://domsubliving.com/free

Duration:00:44:32

Every fake dom does this.

7/28/2025

#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up. 🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom We're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flagsand what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up! ➡️ Fake Dom quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom ➡️ Dom Sub Training course: https://domsubtraining.com ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/096

Duration:00:32:22

7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong

7/21/2025

#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/095 ➡️ Check out the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

Duration:00:20:36

Most BDSM Teachers Get This Completely Wrong

7/14/2025

#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong? ✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/094 ➡️ Join the FREE BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp/

Duration:00:27:23

Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Listen to This

7/7/2025

#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?” If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence. ➡️ Join the free bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/093 ➡️ Join the FREE BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp/

Duration:00:16:00

How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner

6/30/2025

#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp! ➡️ Free Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/092

Duration:00:17:25

Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad?

6/23/2025

#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.” 📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Is Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move beyond fiction. ➡️ Free BDSM contract template: https://domsubliving.com/contract ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/091

Duration:00:19:08

How to Train Your Sub

6/16/2025

#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands? 👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control. ➡️ Access the free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dominant ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/090 🚨 Grab the Total Power Exchange Blueprint before the price doubles on June 17! → https://domsubliving.com/blueprint

Duration:00:21:36

A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship

6/9/2025

#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.” 🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving. ➡️ Total Power Exchange Blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/089

Duration:00:17:34

What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange

6/2/2025

#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention? ✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/088

Duration:00:23:12

10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?

5/26/2025

#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous? 👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong. ➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/087

Duration:00:20:03

Raw, Real, and Kinky: Life Behind the Power Exchange

5/22/2025

#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes. ➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com ➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses/

Duration:00:58:00

BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits

5/19/2025

#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again. 🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/free We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/085

Duration:00:21:15

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

5/12/2025

#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle? 🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominant Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting the rules of control, discipline, and connection. ➡️ Free Dominant quick-start guide: https://domsubliving.com/dominant ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/084

Duration:00:14:24

Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People)

5/5/2025

#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way? 👉 Grab free resources at https://domsubliving.com/free. In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that cracked open years of trauma. Ready to explore healing on your own terms? ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/083

Duration:00:23:53

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight

4/28/2025

#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? 🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable? ➡️ Scene Creation Mastery course (only $9 right now!): https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/082

Duration:00:32:03

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama

4/21/2025

#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think. ❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guide We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships. ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/081

Duration:00:12:10

AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub?

4/14/2025

#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub? 🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM Scene Template at domsubliving.com/scene! It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Doms missing true intuition, we're diving into the future (and risks) of tech in kink. ➡️ Free scene template: https://domsubliving.com/scene ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/080

Duration:00:15:15

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?

4/7/2025

#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives? 🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out https://domsubtraining.com We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go, there's a lot to consider! Got an opinion? Tune in and join the friendly debate. ➡️ Join the Dom Sub Training course: https://domsubtraining.com ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/079

Duration:00:16:31

How to Be a More Confident Dominant

3/31/2025

#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either. 🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at https://domsubliving.com/dom Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, secure, and deeply connected to you. ➡️ Free Dominant Quick Start guide: https://domsubliving.com/dom ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/078 Grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com/

Duration:00:21:50