I Think I Love My Wife Podcast

In this episode (Guilt-free sex), a few alums (Brandon, Jomar, and Paul) from the show wrap up their conversation with me as they dig into my journey to proposing to my wife. They try to understand why my fiancee is currently not my best friend. I highlight the ways that I’ve grown in my relationship. We discuss what you want and what matters in a successful / healthy relationship. I also offer some advice for both men and women who are single and dating. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (I chose to date differently), I switch places with a few alums (Brandon, Jomar, and Paul) from the show and they ask me questions about my current relationship and journey to proposing. We discuss why I needed to take a break from the dating apps. I share how I met my fiancee at the time and explain why I set certain boundaries early in our relationship. I breakdown my issue with how most people date these days and highlight how I chose to date differently. I also recall things that I have learned about relationships and marriage from hosting this podcast that helped accelerate the progression of my relationship. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (The "head of household" misnomer), I wrap up my conversation with Aubrey as fatherhood and what it means to lead a household.. We debate whether there is a head of household in modern families. We talk about decision-making in relationships and explore the difference between dictatorship and leadership. We discuss how fatherhood expands your love. We highlight the importance of supporting and being present for your partner during the fertility process. We talk about the need to find your village. And I conclude our discussion by spending time understanding postpartum effects on women, and potentially men, and how people can lose themselves in it. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Ess, Eff, Aye - Survive, Forgive, Advance), I continue my conversation with Aubrey as we discuss tough moments in his marriage and forward together. We talk about the idea of failing fast and cancel-culture, especially when it comes to dating. We discuss the importance of boundaries, understanding them, and holding fast to them. We unpack the importance of communication in a relationship, highlighting the process of having tough conversations with your partner on big life decisions (i.e., timing for children, the number of kids, buying a house). Aubrey speaks on his family’s fertility journey and emphasizes the need for both parties to take the steps to understand their fertility status. Aubrey shares his secret to marriage, which includes surviving the tough moments, forgiving in those situations, and advancing forward. He also gives his perspective on leadership and sentiments that come with punching above or below your weight. We also spend time acknowledging the importance of knowing yourself, knowing your partner, how to handle them, and what is required in doing that - mutual respect and trust. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Intentionality comes with sacrifice), I begin my conversation with Aubrey as we discuss his journey in finding the right person and getting married. We talk about the challenge men have in trying to balance prioritizing finding the right person for your life and getting your life set up or straightened out. We discuss how he navigated a long distance relationship as well as some of the benefits that come from being in that type of situation. We unpack the importance of living a disciplined life and having a person that anchors you in that and fits versus someone that pulls you away from it. We highlight the process of adjusting to your partner’s norms (and vice versa) and acknowledging when effort is being put in even if it doesn’t match what you want. We explore what it means to be a modern traditionalist and how people evolve even after you’ve been with the same person for a long time. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Fatherhood doesn’t start at birth), I wrap up my conversation with Terrence as we discuss fatherhood and his growth as a father and husband. We talk about how to be more attentive during your wife’s pregnancy. We discuss the first couple of months after a baby is born and the main focus being survival on all fronts. We highlight the demands of breastfeeding and the toll it can take as well as how guys can be helpful with the feeding process. We unpack dealbreakers and the importance of discussing them early on in a relationship. We also spend time exploring premarital counseling and share our thoughts on doing it prior to the engagement. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Playing in the gray area), I continue my conversation with Terrence as we discuss the steps he took to build a solid foundation for his marriage. We talk about how he was challenged in growing intimacy within his relationship and marriage. We discuss the importance of having emotional safety in a relationship as well as how it can feed your physical intimacy with your partner. We unpack how a man’s perception and appreciation of vulnerability changes as a relationship with your partner matures. We spend time highlighting how fixing issues doesn’t erase what happened in the past. We uncover the perks of going to marital counseling, even in the early stages of marriage. I also get his perspective on the necessity of becoming more effective in conflict resolution in a healthy relationship. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and subscribe on YouTube. Please send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Trying to protect you from me), I begin my conversation with Terrence as we discuss him playing the gray prior to marriage and what changed for him in his journey to marriage. We talk about how proposing and getting engaged can feel heavier than actually getting married. We discuss why he waited until he proposed to say “I love you” for the first time. We highlight the importance of providing reassurance to your partner. We unpack the effects and impact on him from not growing up in a traditional environment or seeing healthy relationships. We spend time exploring why he tried to let go of a relationship that he was not ready for. I also get his explanation on the difference between selfishness and strategy when being involved with someone. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (You want someone that chooses you), I wrap up my conversation with Lamar as we discuss his journey in marriage and fatherhood. We talk about navigating pregnancy issues and an atopic pregnancy. We discuss how you have to move differently in a committed relationship or marriage. We unpack some of the joy he gets from doing things with your children that you didn’t get to during his childhood. We highlight getting a vasectomy and how it’s a better preventative measure than options available to women. We spend time exploring his fatherhood journey, where his kids have become his biggest mirror, raising children on the autism spectrum, and learning that there is nothing to fix with neurodivergent children. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (There was some healing that I needed), I begin my conversation with Lamar as we discuss his journey in marriage and learning to trust. We talk about how to shoot your shot at a woman you see rejecting other guys. We discuss the importance of having a ride-or-die partner and someone who is willing to “shoot with you in the gym.” We unpack the struggles that can come in a relationship from issues with trust and vulnerability. We go on to highlight his process of learning how to love someone and creating an infrastructure for vulnerability. We spend time expressing our thoughts on therapy as a preventative measure and pathway for growth and healing. We explore his first few years of marriage and how he and wife survived the challenges that made it rough. We also touch on learning how to balance passions and personal interests with the things that actually matter (i.e., God, wife, children, family). We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Healing is not a one day thing), I wrap my conversation with LaDarius as we discuss his journey in marriage and faith. We talk about the importance of communicating expectations upfront. We discuss how he and his wife navigated several major life changes - getting pregnant, being engaged, becoming a father, dealing with COVID epidemic, and getting married - within less than two years. We explore the need to heal and the way having a strong relationship with Jesus Christ can show you how to operate in marriage. We also highlight the impact therapy can have and how it proactively helped him get in front of things that he needed and wanted to navigate. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Your joy is your responsibility), I begin my conversation with LaDarius as we tackle how he faced his history, created boundaries, and found happiness as he pursued his now-wife for marriage. We discuss the importance of maintaining boundaries when dating and while trying to grow a deeper relationship with Christ. We talk about navigating our personal history, more specifically, his wounds from his mother and how it’s part of the preparation process. We unpack his realization during a period of time when he wasn’t making the best decisions for himself and the effects of placing blame on others when you’re getting what you want. We dissect his mindset shift required to maintain his joy. We also explore the need to acknowledge and be present in your partner’s feelings when you are working to achieve your personal goals as well as the things you want for your relationship. We touch on the challenges of being an influencer and entrepreneur while maintaining a marriage. We are on all major platforms like YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Sometimes you don’t want to hear $h!t about yourself), I wrap up my conversation with Allen and his evolution as a husband and father. We discuss how “good sex” looks different to different people. We talk about the misconceptions of sex and challenges that can come up in that area once married. We explore why women do not usually communicate or give feedback to their partner when they’ve had poor sexual experiences. Allen and I unpack how fatherhood has changed him and the importance of preparing your children for adult experiences. We also touch on therapy and I get his perspective on what is hard about going as well as why people should go to therapy. We are on all major platforms. YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Nobody's perfect and no relationship is perfect), I continue my conversation with Allen, exploring the ups and downs of his relationship and journey to marriage. We discuss his five-year engagement and how he navigated this journey with his fiancee. We talk about his rationale for having a child during the COVID epidemic and discuss how he was able to get past a bump in the road with his in-laws. Allen and I explore the importance of moving as a unit in marriage. We also break down a few different approaches to finances for a household. We are on all major platforms. YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (I gave her an ultimatum), I explore Allen's journey to marriage and challenges that come with dating. I talk to a friend, who's recently married after being engaged for five years, to uncover lessons learned. We discuss navigating life's transitions on one's journey to getting married. We talk about how having a child impacts your calculus on getting married. Allen and I investigate why guys are scared to shoot their shot and the best places for singles to meet each other. We share different views on dating versus courting. We explore why people look for symbolic things, when dating, that don't have a lot of meaning when it comes to marriage. We are on all major platforms. YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/@ThinkLoveWife), Apple Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, Castbox and other streaming services. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss. Email us at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

In this episode (Selflessly Selfish), I discuss with Darrin how he navigated obstacles such as long distance, being an entrepreneur, and infidelity prior to getting married as well as how those lessons learned has helped him become a good husband. We focus on the challenges that come with trying to satisfy your passions as well as your partner. I talk about the importance of having someone that supports you and your passions. We explore the tough calls and tradeoffs you have to make when doubling down on pursuing your dreams and how critical it is to know when to get out or pivot. We also examine how generational differences impact how we view dating today, pursue relationships, and consider sources of advice. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (The benefit of truly learning somebody), I wrap up my conversation with Carlton as we talk through the benefit of truly learning someone and having a healthy sex life in a marriage. We discuss the challenge that men have listening instead of problem-solving. We highlight the intentionality required to develop organic and strong relationships with the in-laws. We examine the importance of sex in a marriage and maintaining an active sexual dynamic throughout the years. We conclude on the idea that the head of the household being a collective effort. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (The unfortunate part of dating), I discuss the value of knowing your person’s heart with Carlton as he shares more of his journey in marriage and in fatherhood. We talk about why guys are okay dating more than one person at the same time and the tradeoffs you make while dating multiple people. We discuss how harder it becomes to date as people get older and considerations for living with your partner prior to marriage. We examine the need for parity in a relationship and being mindful of the development opportunities of who you choose to hitch your wagon. We highlight the importance of communication in the middle of conflict and investing in your relationship once kids are in the picture. We also debate what matters more: trusting or respecting someone for their opinions or feedback. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (Am I really willing to do the work?), I discuss the feeling of knowing when you know and how they led to Carlton dating someone he randomly met prior to graduating college as well as their journey in marriage. We discuss the importance of being intentional when getting to know someone. We break down the process of knowing that you know and how specific experiences can solidify how a guy feels about a woman. We also dive deep in what it means when a guy says “you know when you know”. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.

In this episode (I could have went off the rails), I wrap up my conversation with Courtney discussing critical moments that challenged his marriage early onsuch as dealing with a miscarriage and overcoming a severe covid experience. We emphasize the need to find time and space for yourself in the midst of internal and external chaos so you can show up better for your partner and family. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equipment, studio time, and operational costs to keep this podcast going. This episode is sponsored by Nelo Effect, a coaching and consulting service that helps people turn mindfulness into action as they navigate the dating world as well as in their relationships. Learn more at https://neloeffect.com/dating-relationship-advising/ We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay Music, TuneIn, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and Facebook. Send questions or topics you’d like us to discuss.