Sex With Emily

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change. Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?" They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive. Featured Resource: Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth 3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life) 7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough 14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works 19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration 22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy 39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration 49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse 10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters 18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex 24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy 27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers 31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being. Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies. We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself." The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:57 - What is Functional Medicine? 8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings" 13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms 22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back 32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health 39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support 46:25 - The Missing Conversation 52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession 54:29 - Quickfire Round

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this lively and revealing episode, Dr. Emily Morse brings together a panel of four women, including herself, Producer Madison, Jamie, and Menace's girlfriend Dana, for a raw and unfiltered roundtable about their personal sex lives, fears, fantasies, and the realities of being a woman navigating sex, relationships, and self-image. We dive into honest first-time stories that reveal a mix of regret, shame, confusion, and growth, exploring common themes like pressure to perform, lack of communication, and the cultural silence around female pleasure. The conversation covers body confidence and insecurity, including what kills confidence in the moment and the lingering impact of past partners' comments. Emily encourages reframing internalized shame and redefining sexy on your own terms. The women open up about porn and masturbation habits, discussing how shame still lingers for many, plus their fantasies and turn-ons, from roleplay and power dynamics to emotional safety and feeling desired. We explore the challenges of sexual communication and consent, reflecting on how hard it can be to say what you want during sex and the importance of having these conversations outside the bedroom. From staying silent during bad sex to dating emotionally unavailable people, the women reflect on their biggest sex regrets and what they'd do differently now. The ultimate takeaway: You're allowed to change, explore, and grow. There's no one "right" way to be sexual, and there's incredible power in women sharing their stories to break the silence together. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:38 - Meet the Team 4:10 - What Staying Friends with Exes Says About You 7:17 - Masturbation Month Recap & Four Types of Orgasms Overview 9:03 - Clitoral Orgasms 12:35 - The Tango Vibrator Review 14:54 - G-Spot Orgasms 18:02 - G-Spot Discovery Stories 21:55 - Blended Orgasms 28:17 - Multiple Orgasms 32:05 - Womanizer Review

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this special crossover episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, sex educators and hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, for a deep dive into shame-free pleasure, boundaries, kink, and creating more satisfying intimate relationships; whether you're single, coupled, monogamous, or open. We explore what "shameless sex" really means and how shame disconnects us from pleasure and authenticity. Amy and April share tools like self-inquiry, somatic practices, and sexual experimentation for healing and self-acceptance, emphasizing that communication is the gateway to better sex. They stress the importance of "owning your desires" using non-judgmental language and practicing "seductive honesty" before clothes come off. The conversation covers kink, BDSM, and open relationships, including consent, negotiation, aftercare, and how to safely explore. Amy shares insights from her open relationship about navigating jealousy and building emotional resilience. April, with years in the sex toy industry, busts common myths like "vibrators desensitize you" and "sex toys replace partners," while discussing quality materials, inclusivity, and why most toys are still designed for cis men. This episode is packed with top tips for more shameless sex: normalizing solo exploration, not judging your fantasies, exploring full-body arousal beyond genital touch, and being curious rather than performative. Whether you're questioning your desires, confidence, or worthiness in bed, this conversation offers validation and practical tools for embracing your authentic sexual self. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 6:02 - Breaking Down Sexual Shame 8:21 - Personal Stories 15:25 - How to Identify Your Sexual Needs and Desires 21:59 - Real Communication Example 28:16 - Listener Q&A 36:03 - Helping an Anxious Partner Become More Present During Sex 40:55 - Open Relationships 49:52 - Five Quickie Questions 51:00 - Where to Find Shameless Sex Podcast and Book Details

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse tackles the myths, insecurities, and real-life situations that often come with high sex drives, mismatched libidos, and performance anxiety. Alongside co-host Anderson, she answers listener questions and offers heartfelt, humorous, and sex-positive advice on topics ranging from post-baby confidence to breakups and virginity. We explore whether wanting more sex is actually a problem (spoiler: it's not), how to navigate mismatched libidos without shame or labels, and why performance anxiety during first-time experiences is completely normal. Emily addresses a new mom struggling with body confidence and low libido postpartum, offering practical advice on patience, mindful touch, and rebuilding sexual energy through Kegels and self-care. This episode also dives into breakup survival, including how to live with an ex, resist "revenge sex," and create your own closure rather than expecting it from someone else. We tackle the age-old question of whether you should share your sexual history with partners (Emily's answer: probably not) and explore why "body count" doesn't determine sexual skill. Communication, presence, and adaptability do. Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:29 - Breaking Dating Patterns 10:04 - Sexual History: Should You Share Your Number? 15:11 - High Sex Drive Mismatch 22:04 - Living with Your Ex: Survival Guide 24:10 - Post-Baby Body Confidence Crisis 31:02 - The 31-Year-Old Virgin's Performance Anxiety 36:39 - Breakup Sex Fantasy: Why It's a Bad Idea 39:17 - Wrap-Up

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this essential episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily dedicates an entire show to demystifying the vagina, expanding knowledge about vulvas, vaginal health, and orgasm types. This conversation is all about understanding anatomy, pleasure pathways, and destigmatizing sexual issues that too many people face in silence. We explore the internal clitoral network and why it wasn't included in medical texts until the late 1990s, debunk myths around different types of orgasms (spoiler: they're all connected through internal clitoral structure), and address why penetration alone doesn't cause orgasms for most vulva owners. Emily answers listener questions covering everything from clitoral piercings and vaginismus to rebuilding sexual identity after cancer and chronic yeast infections. This episode includes practical product recommendations like vibrators for sensitive bodies, CBD-infused lubes, and guidance on hormone replacement therapy for vaginal health. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, struggling to reach climax, or just want to understand your body better, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance for reclaiming your pleasure and sexual confidence. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Your Vagina for Better Pleasure 1:44 - Caller Question: Clitoral Piercing Pain and Partner Acceptance 4:20 - Vaginismus: When Your Vagina Won't Relax for Penetration 8:44 - Endometriosis and Sexual Recovery After Cancer 16:22 - Clitoral vs G-Spot Orgasms: What's the Difference? 18:12 - Post-Menopause Orgasms and Vibrator "Addiction" Myths 23:10 - Chronic Yeast Infections: Causes and Solutions 28:21 - When Your Partner Stops Wanting Oral Sex After Baby 32:13 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways for Vaginal Health and Pleasure

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ It's not just your closet that needs a refresh, your love life might too. In this episode, Emily helps you declutter the emotional and relational baggage that's blocking deeper connection, better sex, and healthier self-worth. Think of it as a relationship reset: more intention, less chaos. We explore the signs your love life needs a clean-out (hint: recurring patterns, mixed signals, ghosting) and how to stop confusing chaos for chemistry. Emily guides you through rewriting your dating narrative with clarity and compassion, knowing when to break up with your "type" and try something new, and how to identify emotional unavailability in yourself and others. This episode also covers letting go of "situationships" that are keeping you stuck and creating a values-based dating filter that actually works. If you've been stuck in dating loops, confused about someone's intentions, or holding on to a relationship that's "almost" right, this episode offers the permission, and tools, you need to clear the space for real, aligned love. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 8:51 - How to Identify Toxic Relationships and Partners 19:09 - Signs It's Time to Let Go of Your Relationship 23:03 - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman Research) 27:17 - Trust Issues: When Relationships Can't Be Rebuilt 30:24 - When Sex Dies in Your Relationship 38:17 - Email Time: Jealous Partner Making Wild Accusations 44:40 - Sex During Separation: Good Idea or Trap? 47:02 - The Great Squirting Debate: What It Really Is 51:46 - Wrap-Up and How to Connect

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this pleasure-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reveals creative ways to maximize your intimate experiences using two accessible, beginner-friendly sex toys: bullet vibes and vibrating penis rings. Even if you're new to toys or working with a tight budget, these versatile options can transform your solo and partnered play. Emily breaks down why these aren't just "beginner" toys, they're powerful tools that can enhance pleasure for all body types when you know the right techniques. She shares creative hacks for using bullet vibes during oral sex, explores how to introduce toys to hesitant partners, and reveals surprising ways to incorporate vibrating penis rings into solo play and partnered experiences. This episode tackles common concerns head-on, including how to overcome intimidation around sex toys, why toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and specific techniques for using these tools during penetrative sex. Emily provides detailed guidance on positions that work best with each toy, safety considerations for anal play, and her top product recommendations. Whether you're curious about expanding your toy collection or want to get more creative with what you already have, this episode offers practical wisdom for bringing more pleasure into your intimate life. Emily's approach is inclusive, body-positive, and focused on helping you discover what works best for your unique pleasure preferences. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 7:01 - Two Must-Have Beginner Toys for Everyone 11:45 - Creative Ways to Use Bullet Vibes Beyond the Basics 16:28 - Oral Sex Game-Changers with Vibrators 19:15 - Vibrating Penis Rings: Multi-Use Pleasure Tool 24:11 - Best Sex Positions for Toy Integration 28:04 - Real Questions: Frequency & Post-Baby Changes 32:24 - Safety Tips & Communication Strategies

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this grounding episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how to transform your dating experience by focusing on emotional awareness, body intelligence, and clear intentions. Whether you're navigating apps or meeting people in person, this episode offers a heart-centered approach to modern dating that prioritizes authentic connection over performance. We dive into why your dating "type" might be blocking true connection and how to get out of your head and into your body before dates. Emily shares the power of pre-date rituals and intention setting, explaining why chasing chemistry often leads us astray and how to spot green flags instead of just red ones. This conversation includes practical tips for identifying emotional safety and alignment early on, plus guidance on when to stay curious and when to walk away. Emily offers tools for cultivating real confidence that comes from within, not from external validation, and shares how to maintain your sense of self while remaining open to connection. From setting boundaries to trusting your intuition, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone who wants to date with more intention, less anxiety, and greater self-trust Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:43 The Roommate Problem 4:47 Why Date Nights Matter 6:02 The 5 Arousal Types Explained 9:21 Conversation-Based Dates 12:00 Sensory Dates 17:04 Playful Dates 22:36 Physical Adventure Dates 24:53 How to Introduce Massage Into Your Relationship 29:25 Rebuilding Intimacy After Having a Baby

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes 18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common 25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained 31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works 35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results 37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong 44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation 48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, the magnetic Lizzy Jeff—rap priestess, medicine woman, and founder of Zen & Kush—joins Dr. Emily to dive into the world of cannabis and sensuality. Together, they unpack how CBD and THC can elevate sexual connection, unlock pleasure, and serve as sacred tools for healing and embodiment. Lizzy shares her personal journey with yoni oils, cannabis suppositories, and sacred self-touch, revealing how cannabis can enhance arousal, deepen orgasms, and help you stay present during intimate moments. We explore the power of mirror work, daily sensual rituals, and breath as tools for embodiment, plus how to set up a sex magic practice for manifestation. This episode covers practical guidance on strains, dosage, and product quality, while addressing common concerns like dry mouth, vaginal dryness, and staying present during sex. Lizzy's radiant energy and wisdom shine through as she explains how cannabis can be used intentionally to expand your sexual repertoire and connect with your most authentic, sensual self. Whether you're cannabis-curious, cautious, or already exploring plant medicine in the bedroom, this conversation is full of inspiration and practical tools to help you discover new dimensions of connection and pleasure. From the science of how THC and CBD affect your body to the spiritual aspects of sacred sexuality, this episode offers a holistic approach to cannabis and intimacy. Timestamps: 2:44 - Cannabis & Sex Statistics Overview 4:27 - Meet Lizzy Jeff: Rap Priestess & Medicine Woman 7:27 - Personal Cannabis & Sex Experiences 10:11 - Big Pussy Energy & CBD/THC Products 15:23 - Mantras for Staying Present During Sex 19:07 - Healing Sexual Trauma Through Cannabis 24:05 - Daily Body Connection & Self-Love Practices 25:38 - Dealing with Dry Mouth & Vagina 28:32 - Why Sex is Better Stoned 33:10 - Quickie Questions: Turn-Ons & Sex Advice 35:39 - Sex Magic: Manifesting Through Orgasm

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Join Dr. Emily as she sits down with meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to explore how mindfulness and meditation can transform your relationships and sex life. From creating space in relationships to finding authentic happiness, this conversation dives deep into practical tools for better living and loving. Light Watkins is a bestselling author, accomplished meditation teacher, and founder of the Shine Movement. He's an inspirational keynote speaker and workshop leader who has delivered wellness-themed talks around the globe. Timestamps [8:24] - Emily's personal meditation journey [10:01] - How meditation creates space between offense and reaction in relationships [14:55] - The correlation between meditation and sex [21:02] - Light's accountability hack [31:04] - Why happiness is like doing a pull-up [38:47] - How meditation changed Light's approach to sexual connection and intimacy [41:01] - Split-testing your inner voices [45:35] - The gratitude algorithm [52:52] - Quickie Questions

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this transformative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how our earliest childhood experiences create patterns that show up in our adult relationships and sex lives. This deep dive into attachment theory, trauma responses, and relationship patterns reveals why we often find ourselves repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over again. Dr. Emily breaks down the science behind how our nervous systems record experiences from the third trimester of pregnancy through early childhood, creating unconscious blueprints for how we navigate love, intimacy, and connection as adults. She explains the difference between explicit memories (things we consciously remember) and implicit memories (body-based memories that influence our behavior without our awareness). This episode unpacks common relationship patterns including the caretaker who becomes resentful, the person who chases unavailable partners, the over-communicator paired with someone who stonewalls, and the chameleon who loses themselves in relationships. Through real listener examples, Dr. Emily illustrates how childhood experiences of co-regulation (or lack thereof) shape our adult attachment styles. Key topics include understanding your primary unmet needs, recognizing "trauma tingles" versus genuine attraction, the difference between healthy novelty and addiction to drama, and why some people are drawn to emotional unpredictability. Dr. Emily also explores how these patterns specifically impact sexual connection, including dissociation during intimacy and the challenge of staying present with a partner. The episode offers practical tools for identifying your own patterns, understanding the difference between internal and external processing styles, recognizing stonewalling versus healthy space-taking, and beginning to heal these deeply ingrained responses. This conversation provides essential insights for anyone who wants to understand why they keep attracting the same types of partners or repeating familiar relationship dynamics. Let's get social: Instagram / sexwithemily X / sexwithemily Facebook / sexwithemily TikTok / sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text Timestamps: [0:00] - Introduction [15:20] - The Science of Early Memory Formation [18:50] - Common Pattern #1: The Caretaker Who Becomes Resentful [28:50] - Common Pattern #2: Chasing Unavailable Partners [39:00] - The Art of Staying Present in Relationships [43:20] - Common Pattern #3: Over-Communication vs. Stonewalling [52:40] - Common Pattern #4: The Chameleon Effect [56:00] - Trauma Tingles vs. Real Attraction [1:04:15] - The Performance Trap in Dating

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with Jeffrey Marsh, the first openly non-binary public figure interviewed on national television, author of "How to Be You," and a Zen-trained meditation teacher who has helped millions embrace self-acceptance. This conversation goes deep into identity, authenticity, and the radical act of loving yourself exactly as you are. Jeffrey shares their journey from childhood feelings of not fitting into traditional gender roles to becoming a leading voice for non-binary visibility and self-compassion. We explore the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation, the importance of using correct pronouns as basic respect, and how Jeffrey's 20+ years of Zen practice has shaped their approach to self-love and helping others break free from shame. This episode addresses the real challenges of coming out, setting boundaries with family, and the courage it takes to live authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Jeffrey offers practical wisdom on moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance, why asking for what you need is essential for healthy relationships, and how their work helps people - especially parents - learn to support LGBTQ+ loved ones. Whether you're exploring your own identity, supporting someone in your life, or simply want to understand how to love yourself more fully, this conversation offers profound insights on breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic self. Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships. We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy. This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior. Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons 01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story 04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon 08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face 11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics 14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus 16:06 - Positivity Bias Training 19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation 21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function 24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits 27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction 35:12 - ADD & Relationships 38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms 40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play 02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission 04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens 07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths 12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like 16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink 22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey 25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces 30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety 32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text