Sex With Emily

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:17 - When to Have "The Sex Talk" in a New Relationship 3:26 - Building Sexual Anticipation vs. Rushing Into Sex 5:25 - How to Talk About Sex Before You've Had Sex 8:14 - Faking Orgasms: Why It Hurts Both Partners 11:31 - Reader Question: Navigating Painful Sex & Communication 16:42 - Creating Safety When Past Experiences Were Painful 20:38 - The Importance of Lube and Going Slow 24:16 - Reader Question: Coming Out as Bisexual in Marriage 28:36 - Starting Conversations About Desires & Fantasies 30:38 - Living Your Sexual Truth at Any Age 32:24 - Practical Steps for Difficult Conversations

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh explains why Western medicine discarded the body system that might be blocking your orgasms—and how to bring it back online. Lauren reveals fascia: the communication network your body uses to record trauma, send arousal signals, and feel everything. Medical schools in the 1900s threw it away as "packing wrap" without studying it. Now we know it's your sixth sense, and when it's congested, you age faster and feel less. A woman with a tilted uterus faces sudden stabbing pain with her well-endowed partner after a decade of great sex—discover why the diagnosis isn't the whole story. Someone's tried every technique for premature ejaculation with zero results—learn why most solutions create the opposite effect and what pro athletes know about lasting longer. A post-menopausal woman on hormones still bleeds during painful sex—hear which ancient practices work when Western medicine falls short. Lauren teaches the reverse Kegel (why opening beats squeezing), how stress clenches your pelvic floor without you knowing, why Brazilians walk differently than Westerners and what that reveals about sexual energy, and the breathing pattern that pumps toxins from your brain while awakening sensation below. If pain during sex, premature ejaculation, or post-menopausal dryness have stumped your doctors, this reveals what they're missing. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - What is Fascia? The Body's Communication Network Explained 5:05 - Why Western Medicine Ignored Fascia Until Now 9:36 - How Fascia Impacts Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment 15:03 - Releasing Trauma Stored in Your Body's Tissues 21:27 - The Blood Flow Problem Behind Sexual Dysfunction 27:34 - Pain During Sex: Understanding Your Pelvic Floor 30:24 - The Reverse Kegel Technique for Better Orgasms 33:40 - Painful Sex with Tilted Uterus: Solutions Beyond Positions 38:38 - Fixing Lifelong Premature Ejaculation with Body Work 43:07 - Postmenopausal Pain: When Hormones Aren't Enough

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sex educator Susan Bratton reveals why the #1 complaint in heterosexual relationships—"she can't orgasm during intercourse"—isn't about broken bodies, but broken information. With techniques that have her inbox flooded with exclamation points, Susan dismantles everything you thought you knew about penetrative sex. Discover why rushing is killing your pleasure, what ancient Daoists knew about rhythm that porn never taught you, and the counterintuitive move that makes orgasm easier (hint: it's not what you're doing now). Susan explains the arousal gap nobody talks about, reframes the vagina in a way that will change how you touch it, and teaches the "Heart Tongue" approach that transforms mechanical sex into connection. A 50-year-old man asks why his girlfriend can't climax during sex despite trying everything. A 25-year-old wonders if she's ever actually had an orgasm and why "squirting" feels like nothing. Susan guides both through tissue activation, sacred self-pleasure, and why the entrance to the vagina needs to be courted, not conquered. Susan claims her best sex ever and credits specific practices for looking a decade younger than her peers. She shares the "Lips-Nips-Clit Axis," why opening matters more than tightening, and her most-thanked technique involving a 10-count that toggles the nervous system. If you've been chasing sensation instead of connection, this episode rewrites the playbook. Timestamps:

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily Q&A episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle listener questions about fantasies, relationships, and navigating sexual compatibility. They explore cuckolding—one of America's most common fantasies—discussing why partners want to watch their significant other with someone else, the importance of comprehensive pre-negotiation, and why "one and done" promises rarely hold true. A listener living with his ex-boyfriend learns why moving on sexually is so difficult when you're still sharing space, and gets permission to stop pressuring himself during the healing process. The conversation addresses adult baby/diaper fetishes, distinguishing between core erotic desires that are requirements versus nice-to-have fantasies, and explores creative solutions like working with specialized sex workers when partners aren't compatible. Finally, they dissect a toxic relationship pattern where one partner constantly shifts between attraction and rejection, helping a listener recognize when it's time to walk away. Throughout, Dr. Emily emphasizes that early relationship sex fueled by new relationship energy doesn't last forever, the importance of understanding your own pleasure rather than just servicing a partner's wants, and why we need to stop dating people based on their potential to change. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:25 - My Boyfriend Wants to Watch Me Have Sex with Another Man 6:02 - Why Cuckolding is One of America's Most Common Fantasies 8:55 - How Do I Move On When I'm Still Living with My Ex? 14:59 - My Wife Thinks My Fetish is Demonic - Is This Marriage Over? 20:53 - He Says I'm Not Attractive Enough Anymore - What Do I Do? 23:29 - Red Flags: When Your Partner Wants You to Change Your Body 26:10 - Closing Thoughts: Stop Fighting for Approval, Start Honoring Your Needs

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others. Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive. Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered. Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing 9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior 13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life 15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People? 27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships 33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up 42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home 50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy 52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations. The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed 8:23 - First Porn Experiences 17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior 27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue 37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream 41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery 50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences 57:17 - Final Thoughts

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships. How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough." The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved. They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification. The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus 5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries 8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships 11:43 - Egg freezing experience 16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes 21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz 26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy 30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games 35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection 38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships 40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering? A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner. For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom. Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go? Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve. Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past 5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus 11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal 17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships 20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes 29:52 - The Field Effect 34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response 40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions 46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag. Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul. Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure. They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority. Timestamps: 0:28 - Intro 1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships 3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating 5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy 10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy 13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences 17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator 20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities 24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags) 27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play 29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work 31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry 36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure 38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf Episode Summary In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says "I'll be right there"—and how learning each other's patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage. Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that "worry is not responsibility"—a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking—and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy. Through a caller's dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the "Yes, No, Maybe" list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:32 - Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years 3:20 - Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues 6:46 - The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem 8:13 - Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection 11:51 - Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & "Worry is Not Responsibility" 13:27 - Emily's Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement 16:39 - Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection 18:25 - Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other's Patterns 22:43 - Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses 25:43 - Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity 29:24 - Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD 31:16 - Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development 33:26 - Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma 34:28 - Five Quickie Questions

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, psychiatrist Dr. Will Siu reveals why he went from atheist to spiritual devotee in 20 minutes during his first psychedelic experience—and how that breakthrough taught him that anger is actually a mask for feeling weak. Will shares his journey from achieving external success while feeling internally miserable to discovering the profound connection between emotional healing and sexual satisfaction. He breaks down his six fundamental emotions framework and explains why "You're not getting angry because you're tough—you're getting angry because you feel weak," a revelation that changed how he approached both therapy and intimacy. Through candid stories about religious sexual shame and the universal male experience of measuring penis size with a ruler, Will demonstrates how vulnerability can actually increase attraction. The conversation tackles why less than 5% of therapy clients discuss sex directly, how working on general insecurities often improves bedroom experiences more than focusing on sex itself, and practical steps for finding partners who can hold space for authentic emotional expression. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - From Harvard Success to Internal Misery 7:43 - First Psychedelic Experience 12:14 - The Six Core Emotions 15:08 - The Truth About Male Anger 18:07 - Why Women's Anger is Suppressed and Its Sexual Consequences 22:02 - Male Penis Insecurities 26:01 - The Power of Authenticity Over Vulnerability in Relationships 29:22 - Finding Examples of Healthy Relationships in Modern Culture 32:17 - Building Male Mentorship and Emotional Communities 36:05 - Quick Fire Questions

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily explores praise kink—the trending phenomenon where sexual arousal comes from receiving verbal affirmation and approval during intimacy. She breaks down how this differs from simply enjoying compliments and connects to deeper psychological needs for feeling worshipped, special, or desired. The episode introduces core erotic desires—the fundamental feelings we seek during sex that stem from our experiences and shape what turns us on. Whether involving feeling powerful, nurtured, transgressive, or humiliated, understanding these desires is crucial for sexual satisfaction. Through listener questions, Emily tackles complex dynamics: a man missing the intense connection with a kinky ex despite his fiancé's willingness to participate, a woman who shut down after an embarrassing bondage moment, and someone questioning fantasies about their partner with others. She normalizes these experiences while offering practical communication strategies, including her "Yes, No, Maybe?" checklist for exploring new sexual territory with partners, and emphasizing that sexual fantasies and messy moments are normal parts of intimacy. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Understanding Kinks vs Conventional Sex 5:14 - Praise Kink and Submissive Energy in the Bedroom 7:04 - How Praise Kink Helps with Body Image Issues 9:09 - Core Erotic Desires: What Really Turns You On 11:48 - Different Types of Core Desires (Worship, Humiliation, Power) 15:07 - Mining Your Fantasies to Discover Your Desires 17:07 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Fantasies 19:47 - Listener Question: Missing Kinky Ex vs Current Partner 24:42 - Listener Question: Embarrassing Moment Killed the Kink 30:34 - Listener Question: Is My Cuckolding Fantasy Healthy?

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down the dynamics of toxic relationships—why we get stuck in them, how to spot the red flags, and what it takes to step into something healthier. She explains how cycles of fighting and making up can become addictive, why perfectionism and unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy, and the subtle ways emotional unavailability shows up through gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and avoidance. The episode also explores the deeper psychology behind repeated patterns: why we’re drawn to unavailable partners, how our own fears and defenses play into toxic dynamics, and why real change only happens when both people are willing to do the work. Listener questions and calls highlight unmet needs, long-term relationships starved of affection, and the painful realization that sometimes love isn’t enough to sustain a partnership. Alongside this, Emily offers clear strategies for breaking toxic cycles, communicating needs without blame, and deciding when it’s time to stay, seek help, or walk away. With candid stories about gaslighting, perfectionism, and emotional neglect, this episode is a raw but empowering guide to recognizing what doesn’t serve you—and finding the courage to choose relationships that do. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - When High Standards Destroy Love 6:35 - Signs of Emotional Unavailability You Need to Know 11:04 - How Long Will You Stay in an Unfulfilling Relationship? 13:34 - 8 Years of Unmet Needs and One-Sided Love 20:18 - Words vs Actions 25:36 - Anniversary Disappointment After 28 Years of Marriage 30:59 - Having the Difficult Conversation Your Relationship Needs